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Lets talk about online dating.
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People aren’t always who they portray. Their dating and social media profiles are often times more about who they wish they were than who they really are. Understand that what you see on these profiles is only what they want you to see nothing more. Social media profiles are like commercials. And we’ve all seen a commercial for a product or service we thought looked awesome only to be disappointed by the stuff when we bought it. People are no different. Dating profiles are often full of romanticized ideas what kind of partner a person thinks they are. People aren’t in the habit of exposing their flaws for good reason. Just imagine if a shifty guy described himself honestly. If he was just like…
“ Hi I’m Craig, I’m 5 in a half inches of narcissism and low ambition. I’ll be sweet for a month or two but then become emotionally distant. You’ll wonder what’s wrong and While I secretly Dm other women. I’ll like 3 pass pics a day on Instagram and always finish before you in bed. Date me if you have 90 days to waste”
No one would ever write craig back if he were honest . It’s just easier to type bullcrap like Easygoing or Enjoys bike riding and long walks on the beach.
If you want a more genuine idea of what kind of kind of person they are look at their status updates for the last few months. What kind of comments do they make. What kind of people do they engage with on social media. What conversations do they contribute to. Do they seem to have any passions that align with yours. What kind of pictures do they post of themselves. A lot of selfies for guys usually indicate a huge ego and possibly self obsession. Are the pictures natural or composed. A lot of composed pictures could show a reluctancy to open up. Are they always alone or in a group. If every picture is a group picture they could be hard to pin down or separate from their friends. If you don’t like their friends or want a lot of alone time that could be a problem. Are they trying to be seen a certain way? What are they trying to make you think about them with the things they post. Do they want to be seen as fun, wise, adventurous or well off. That may may be a clue to what’s important to them.
Some guys won’t bother putting much information at all. This shows a reluctancy to qualify themselves to others. It also shows that they are lazy socially and may give that same minimal effort in their new relationships.
I was asked this week about what to watch out for when judging a guys online profiles. My answer, is everything. People can be whatever they want on the internet. There are fake vegans fake activists fake models fake directors fake wisemen fake ballers and everything in between. If you think a guy is cute The best thing to do is chit chat with em long enough to see if he is crazy. Try to ignore the social media advertisement they show you.
There’s no secret to dating online. The best mindset is an open mind but skeptical one. Like I always say love with your brain and Date with discernment. I’m sorry I don’t have any wise words for this topic. People are full of crap sometimes no matter how nice their profiles look. Dating online is a gamble just like dating in person.
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